HELP CENTRE

How can we help you?

Short questions and answers about how NikahDM works.

Messaging and inbox

Message statuses, archiving and removing from your inbox

Who can I send messages to?

You can message active members of the opposite gender; you don’t need to have matched. Start a chat with the message button on a member’s profile or card.

  • If there is a block between you (in either direction), messages cannot be sent.
  • Messages cannot be sent to frozen or unavailable accounts.
  • A message can be up to 2000 characters. If you send messages too quickly, you will be asked to wait a moment.
  • A conversation is created when you send the first message; opening a chat screen without writing shows nothing to the other person.
What do “Sent” and “Read” mean?

A status appears under your own messages:

  • Sending…: the message is on its way.
  • Sent: the message has been saved and is in the other person’s conversation.
  • Read: the other person opened the chat and the message appeared on their screen.
  • Not sent: it couldn’t be saved because of the connection or a rule; you can try again.

Read status does not depend on your online status: even if you are “Busy” or “Hidden”, messages you read show as “Read” to the other person. There is currently no option to turn off read status.

How do new messages arrive? Will I get notifications?

While the site is open, new messages arrive without refreshing the page, and the Messages counter in the top menu updates by itself.

There are currently no phone (push) notifications or email notifications for new messages. You need to open the site to see your new messages.

What do the Inbox, Sent and Archive tabs show?
  • Inbox: conversations where the other person has written you at least one message.
  • Sent: conversations where you have written at least one message.
  • Archive: conversations you have archived.

A conversation where you both wrote can appear in both Inbox and Sent. You can search the list by name and use the “Unread” filter. Go to Messages

What is the difference between archiving and “Remove from my inbox”?

Archive

  • The conversation moves to the Archive tab; your messages stay with you.
  • When you or the other person writes a new message, the conversation leaves the archive by itself. You can also choose “Unarchive” at any time.
  • In the Messages list, use Edit to select and archive several conversations, or archive from inside the chat.

Remove from my inbox

  • The messages up to that moment are no longer shown to you; this cannot be undone.
  • The other person keeps seeing their own copy.
  • If a new message arrives, the conversation reappears with only the new messages.
  • It is done from the menu inside the chat.

Neither action is reported to the other person, and neither deletes any message from their side.

Can I edit or delete a message I sent?

No. Sent messages cannot be edited or deleted from the other person’s conversation. “Remove from my inbox” only clears your own view. So don’t share personal details such as your phone number, address or bank details before trust has been built.